Wednesday, 19 May 2010

Why is being black and a bottom such a big deal?

 Found this to be quite insightful read that a fan of the blog brought to my attention so I thought I'd share:

"Being weary about admitting that you bottom is a very real issue... and it all goes back to perception. Being sexually submissive aka "bottom" has always been demonized because in many minds that person is "seemingly" taking on the role of a woman - the weaker vessel - simply because he "prefers" to receive. I definitely don't agree with that because at the end of the day we're all men, but when it seems that most men who claim the position of "bottom" are also very feminine it empowers that perception thus this conversation we're having right now. What I've learned is that some fem men don't even want to be men (hate having a penis and want you to act as if they don't have one) - but that's an entirely different topic all together and one worth having. So, here's what I am getting at...  at the end of the day we have to let go of the hetero constructs when it comes to being in relationships with each other as men and just be. Our judgment for those who are "bottoms" comes from outside anti-homo/hetero world that dominate our lives. It's on US to define what OUR love should look like and the roles we play in it. And because a man takes it up the rear doesn't not make him less than a man - less strong - less masculine. Yet, none of this is possible if you're not comfortable with who you are which is what I think is the real root to all this."

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